At its very definition unconditional love seems like something out of a fairytale, something that many of us are unsure if we have ever truly encountered in our lifetime. Unconditional love is generally something that we as mothers and fathers give to our children without question, but outside of the parent and child relationship is there really unconditional love?
Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations, orlove without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism or complete love.
I believe that there is such a love out there, sometimes these types of relationships come into our lives when we least expect it. when we need more than just a casual relationship. We may not mentally be looking for this type of relationship to form or even happen, but subconsciously and in our core, we are seeking that compassionate love which is unconditional from the very beginning.
For instance, let me tell you about a time when I came to the full realization that my relationship with my husband was totally unconditional.
In January 2014, I had to have major back surgery, I had the worst back pain I had ever experienced in my life which started the year prior to that around October of 2013, it was at times completely debilitating. I had been told off and on that, I just simply had issues with sciatica in my back and that I should take meds, rest, and it would be better sooner or later. I finally gave in, after several months of straight pain, and went to the doctor. Turned out that I had a ruptured disk in my lower spine and shattered vertebrae in one spot that had attempted to heal but had not healed properly which was causing increased pressure on my spinal cord. In addition to all that I have a slew of other issues with my back too, some of which I was just born with and others from numerous car accidents.
Well, after my surgery in 2014, I needed some extra care and so did the children. I was unable to do a lot of things for quite some time, including but not limited to showering and getting my own bra on. My husband and I were still dating at the time and he stepped up to the plate to help me with everything. From changing the dressing to cleaning and cooking, he also made sure that the kids had everything they needed. My AH-HA moment came one day when I was sitting on the toilet after my surgery and I started to cry because I was having issues getting up and down in our small bathroom. I was also having issues well… wiping off, too much information I know. But he came into the bathroom to check on me and offered to help, in whatever way I needed him to. Which of course made me cry even more, not because I was feeling helpless but because I felt SO LOVED, at that moment. This man was willing to do anything that I needed him to, anything that he could do, he was willing to do, just to ensure that I would be well. This was unconditional love, this was the purest love that I had ever experienced in my life other than love from my family.
He has always been my rock, my partner in many ways but at this moment I knew that this was a relationship that was meant to be, this was the person that I would go old with because he cared enough to help me in my time of need. I knew I loved him immensely before this, but this was a defining moment for me. I had had relationships in the past where the partner could have cared less, where even though I was on the brink of dying they truly did not put any effort into caring for me, I was on my own in those relationships. I knew from this moment forward, that I needed to do everything in my power to let him know that this was it for me, he was my one and only and always will be.
Now, we have our ups and downs, we may not always see eye to eye, however, we always talk things through and work through the things in life that need to be worked on. We are a team and work together as a united front, no matter what comes our way. One thing remains the same through all of it, our love for one another is truly unconditional. I love him no matter what and he does the same for me. Though our vows did not include it to one another it is a through sickness and health, for richer or poorer, and til death do us part, relationship even before we ever got married officially. He was always meant to be my husband and I was always meant to be his wife.
Have you ever had a relationship where you experienced true, unconditional love?
If so, tell me about it.
Until next time